Losing Our Minds

“If you lose your mind, you lose it into the hands of God.”  – Elizabeth Goudge 

I would have thought this quaint before I had my own mid-life crisis.  I actually like the term “nervous breakdown” better.  That somehow seems more benign than the modern diagnoses with their sterile categories, the ones that somehow suggest diseased thinking can be folded up and put in the appropriate drawer like a mildewed sweater.

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Panic disorder.  Anxiety disorder.  Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.  Someone even suggested PMS.  If only.  It doesn’t take much.  Just the tiniest slip, the way in which your body betrays you with the sudden rush of adrenaline or your logical thinking jumps out the window at the thought of driving over a bridge.

The trigger itself is irrelevant, but you know that your reasoning doesn’t make sense, and willing  yourself to be braver, or more faith-filled, or just saner leaves you clutching the airplane seat-handle and counting the long breaths.

At first I thought it was uncommon.  That something went wrong.  Thyroid or hormones or vitamin deficiencies or Something, because mental illness isn’t the American way.  It’s impermissible, kind of like aging or imperfect health.

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And then I discovered we all have it.  We call it by different names.  Alcoholism or a struggle with porn or workaholism or yo-yo dieting.  Internet addiction or shopping therapy or hidden rage or cutting.  But really it all stems from the reality that we are defective.  We’re broken.  John Eldridge says something to the effect that we are all born into this world doubting the love of God.  There’s the root of it.

At our deepest level, we operate out of the reality of scarcity and fear and brokenness and sin.  Not just the “sin” of one individual transgression, but the death-bringing, life-defying, stranglehold of separation from our Father.  We are alone and terrified, and there comes a time for each of us when we are stripped bare of our coping mechanisms.  When the novels or movies or food or relationships fail us, and we are left naked and shaken, wondering if we have lost our minds.

I wonder if we ever had them in the first place.

Thing is, it doesn’t matter.  He holds our minds.  He holds our fractured souls, our fragmented lives, our frantic running and striving and avoiding.  He knows we are but dust.  He’s never been fooled by our posing as anything different.

Though he’s promised us he will make us so.  “Don’t be afraid, little flock,” he says.  “It is the Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.”  I think about this on the nights when I wonder if things can get better.  Or worry about how they can possibly get any worse.  On nights when I see without question that there is no health in me, and I’m afraid that even the illusion of well-being might be stripped away.  Those are the nights when I cling to the truth of God’s love fleshed out.  Jesus is with me, I pray.  Jesus will take care of me. 

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I need this truth in a world of sudden breath-taking tragedy.  One full of inexplicable loss and terminal diagnoses and children starving and people being trafficked.  Of news reports that warn me to be more vigilant and less trusting and more careful.  A world beset by an enemy who does indeed steal and kill and destroy.  A world where from the first day we drew breath, we lost our sense of well-being.  Let’s reclaim it.  Jesus is with us.  Jesus will take care of us.

2 thoughts on “Losing Our Minds

  1. Oh, my goodness. This is me. You have written words that pierced your soul and reached down to pierce your hands… and knowing, but not really knowing… you have typed the words I haven’t been brave enough to utter but to the inner circle. I have wondered if I’m in some vain mid-life crisis. It would make sense, as I’ve spent time considering when/where I lost myself. But no. The brain chemicals that decided to be imbalanced/disordered years ago and stay that way are a product of the Fall and a situational perfect storm.

    Your reminder of “little flock” has been a prayer I’ve muttered a hundred times…and then stopped. There are days I say, yes, I know God loves me, but I’m not sure he likes me much. There are days I know the enemy is the one telling me this. There are days when the voice of Jesus speaks love over me. There are days when the enemy’s voice is easier to believe.

    I am weeping, WEEPING that you have endured something similar. I’m so sorry. It’s hard. Dark. The swirling thoughts alone can be terrifying. I also weep because I know exactly what you mean. When I lived abroad it was easy to spot an American in a crowded European city. I could see them from a mile away. There was familiarity and comfort in recognition. I see you, friend.

    You are brave. Jesus presence is thick in your words. Thank you for being obedient to write this. It was what I desperately needed to hear tonight. Grace and peace, friend.

    • marissaburt says:

      Thank you for sharing some of your story, Heather. Isn’t it amazing how something can feel so lonely and then we realize: oh, wait, perhaps this is really a piece of being human after all? Perhaps a cleverly disguised means of discouragement – to keep us hiding hard, holding others at arms’ length because they seem to be so different. Oversung though it might be, it is so profound that all ground is level at the cross. Thankful that his grace meets us in our varied shades of brokenness. Courage, friend. M

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